“When thinking about meeting your ideal mate, your tendency is to think that he/she is “out there” somewhere and you have to find them.
The premise of my work is that you only need to ready yourself and he/she will “appear” in your life. This does not mean you won’t go looking, but that your vision is so clear that if he/she is where you are looking, you will actually be able to see him/her.”
I Imagine that you are someone who has a strong desire to share your life with another. You want the camaraderie, love, passion and partnership that you imagine could be possible in an intimate relationship.
However, given the fact that you are not in a relationship, I would assert that something is in your way. Perhaps you have loved and failed or loved and lost in the past and you are afraid of repeating the same mistake.
I could say that you are not “FREE” to attract your Ideal Mate.
If you imagined that you were a magnet for love and partnership but your magnet was dirty, your job would be to clean your magnet so you would be “FREE” to attract your ideal mate.
If order to clean your magnet, you first need to identify what is making it dirty. The best way to begin this is to ask yourself the following questions:
What do I believe about myself that would hold me back from attracting him or her?
What do I believe about men or women in general that would hold me back from attracting him or her?
What do I believe about life that would hold me back from attracting him or her?
Begin to take a deep look at the origin of these beliefs and ask yourself if they empower you to attract your ideal mate. If the answer is “no” ask yourself what it would take to discard those beliefs and make up a new ones.
Do these beliefs empower you to attract your ideal mate? If the answer is “no” ask yourself what it would take to discard those beliefs and make up a new ones. The question you may be left with is “What would it take to discard those old beliefs?” For instance if you believe that you are not attractive because you are carrying a few extra pounds and “men” don’t like women who are “full figured” or you are bald and “women” don’t like bald men. Ask yourself the following questions.
1. “Who” or “what” influenced your belief?
2. Is this belief externally driven by the media?
3. Do “YOU” really believe this or are you just stuck with it?
4. What makes someone attractive to you?
5. If you could make up a belief that empowered you, what would it be?
6. Can you determine your destiny?
7. Do you get to choose what you believe?
If you see that you get to choose what you believe, your next step is to change each belief that is dirtying your attraction magnet to one that feels attractive and then find ways to reinforce these new beliefs. For instance, find examples in life of men who love full figured women and women who love bald men.
When thinking about meeting your ideal mate, your tendency is to think that he/she is “out there” somewhere and you have to find them.
The premise of my work is that you only need to ready yourself and he/she will “appear” in your life. This does not mean you won’t go looking, but that your vision is so clear that if he/she is where you are looking, you will actually be able to see him/her.
So we could say that this has more to do with an emotional journey within toward clarity and readiness.
To facilitate this journey try the following exercise:
First Determine your emotional state with regards to attracting your ideal mate. Are you fearful, insecure, jealous of others, angry, discourages, bored, hopeful, optimistic, enthusiastic, empowered, or joyful?
Second Attach an image to your emotional state. Feeling fearful might be represented by a black hole. Feeling joyful might be represented by a sunset.
Third If your emotional state is not where you would like it to be, identify what you would like it to be. Would you like to feel happy, fearless, empowered or joyful about attracting your ideal mate?
Fourth Create a new image that represents the emotional state you want to be in. For instance if you were fearless, perhaps you would see yourself approaching your ideal mate and surrounding him/her with love.
Fifth Find a way to manifest this image in your life through pictures or objects and allow yourself to feel this emotional state several times a day with regard to attracting your ideal mate.
If you practice this daily, your ideal mate will be compelled to appear in your life.
